Spoiled Children of Divorce


Gabrielle Giffords, Evil Stepmother Not
November 29, 2011, 2:41 am
Filed under: Good Step-Parent Stories

Kind of strange to think that anyone would think of Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords as an evil step-mother.  But, according to their new book, Gabby, this is what astronaut Mark Kelly’s two teenage daughters thought of Giffords when she became their step-mother in 2007.  When Giffords was tragically shot early this year in Arizona, the two daughters immediately changed their attitude towards their step-mother.  Kelly says that this is one of the good things that came about as a result of the tragedy.  It’s a good lesson for a child to learn.

I suppose that this just goes to show how the actual personality of a step-parent might not always be the real issue here (although I don’t want to discount when it is).

 



Mom, I’m Home
January 29, 2010, 3:19 am
Filed under: Bad Step-Parent Stories, Good Step-Parent Stories, Uncategorized

In the never-ending comments section of the Stepmothers and Step-daughters blog entry I wrote how many eons ago a Step-Mother just shared how she doesn’t have a problem with her step-daughters. Yay!  Read it.  Also, read Carolyn’s blog because she links to some really positive, helpful blogs right now which are written by Step-Mothers who are also Children of D.  I suspect that Children of D. make much better Step-Parents than Step-Parents from traditional households because they know how it feels to be in the situation and  I’m really glad this is happening.  I sort of wonder if a lot of the behaviors suggested won’t fall on deaf ears, though.  Children of D, for example, grow up knowing what it feels like to feel left out. Telling most people who grew up in Intact Families not to interfere in certain parts of family life is going to be impossible.  One of the problems with Divorce is that it messes with our natural sense of mixing territoriality with our homes and they don’t understand that this is just part of the contract they signed into.

At any rate the Successful Happy Step-Mother commenter says that her step-daughters live with her and her husband.  She gave some really great advice about what works for her as a step-mother.  (I don’t understand why step-parents constantly butt into this blog because it’s clearly not about them, but I suppose I don’t understand why anyone would marry into a step-family without making sure that they knew what they were walking into in the first place.)

I’m trying to believe that all the complaining that the step-mothers do about their roles is a link to figuring out a way to fix the problems that exist in step-families.  The Step-Mothers can hopefully provide insight into the family which the blood relatives can’t see.  Unfortunately, in divorce situations, everyone’s already adjusting to being an outsider in the family as well.

Sadly, I tend to think that most of the Step-Mother complaining is just complaining.  In the situations where the step-mothers are reasonably well balanced emotionally, honest, caring, respectful people (in the situations where they really are that way and not just saying that they are that way) there might be some real information in there.  But over the Internet one can reasonably only assume the worst.

In reality  many women who take on the step-mother role are doing it just to “get a man.”  They are bullies and will make fast work of the husband’s kids.  I grew up with one of those.  I know others who know one or two of those.  I know that there are a lot of overly confident women out ought to be CEOs of large corporations but have to settle for decimating step-children’s lives.

Sadly, like all other adults out in the world right now, I have no real advice for kids growing up in that situation except to focus on what positive, strong people do.  Divorce in families is so alienating that it is raising a great social consciousness in the World which may be just as valuable (or, at least different).  Grasp on to that part of the lessons it offers.

Back to the commenter who has no problem with her live-in step-daughters, what impressed me from a critical point of view was her description of the biological mother because it still manages to fall into that category of step-mother comments that negate the other Mother’s influence in her children’s lives.  The deal here is that the biological mother is not in her children’s life.  The commenter showed some concern for the girls’ welfare that the mother wasn’t there.  She didn’t say why the Mother was absent.

I tend to feel equal amount of annoyance by Step-Mothers who tell me that everyone gets along just fine as the ones who like to point out the flaws of the Mother.  How do they know how the kids feel?  Why don’t they analyze their own flaws?  A kid has enough lessons to learn in order to ask a “real parent” for a ride to a friend’s house.  Imagine how much more difficult it is to ask a “step-Parent” for a ride to a friend’s house.  This is a constant awareness that the “real parent” isn’t there.  And it’s gotta hurt.  It’s made all the worse when there is mental illness, addiction, abuse, or illness involved somehow in the situation because the child is already dealing with difficult situations.

Since this is a blog about Children of Divorce and what affects them it just sort of made me wonder why a Mother wouldn’t be there because I wonder how the two girls will grow up thinking about their Mother and how that will affect their abilities to see themselves, love themselves, and to love others.  In my personal experience I’ve heard the comment “I don’t owe my real Mother anything, my Step-Mother did everything.”

Okay, for one, becoming a single Mother is farking scary.  Nothing is easier for single Women than it is for single Men in this world.  That’s the honest to God truth.  Because of that you would think that women would support each other.  But they don’t.  They tend to attack and use each other.

Is the Mother not there because she hates the child?  (some Mothers really don’t like their kids)

Is the Mother not there because she simply doesn’t like or can’t handle being a Mother?

Did the Mother marry too young?

Is she not there because she has a career and has decided that the Father can provide better care?

Is she mentally ill, alcoholic, addicted, etc?

Does the Mother have a chronic illness?

Is the Mother just irresponsible?

Is she unable to handle the financial burden of raising children?

Can she not handle the tension of passing the kids back and forth between households?

Did the Mother marry an abusive man?

What else?  How different a Child from Divorce’s attitude must be from the Child who grows up in an Intact Family where these questions don’t exist.

I wonder what the best way is for a step-parent to discuss the “other parent.”  I have noticed that Step-Mothers who complain about step-children endlessly seem to never discuss their husbands’ parenting styles.  They do like to discuss the “Real Mother’s” problems, however.

I think that men really don’t know what’s going on between the Step-Mother and Step-Child situation. (Yes, I know, and the police know, that Step-Fathers tend to be very abusive as well, I’m just discussing the Step-Mother thing because they keep flooding my blog).   Women are experts at doing things underhanded.  They survive by pulling this behavior in society.

This is basic tribal stuff.  But, as I said, it doesn’t exist in intact families.  And so it goes that there’s an awful sexism that crops up within step-families between the women.  And it’s interesting that no one really seems to benefit from it (emotionally at least).  The Mother is humiliated by the Other woman.  The daughters are abused and at least are exposed to how two very bad female role models co-exist.  The Step-Mothers complain endlessly and no one really does know if they really are used as doormats or if they are just being bullies.

Boy, I want this to be my last post about step-mothers.  I suspect that most kids are so worried about their own parents during a divorce that they really don’t even want to think about the add-ons.  Most kids from divorce want to talk about their relationships with their real parents.  They do this not only because of love but also because they are trying to find a place to mirror their genetic traits.  This is done through the strong emotional bonds that exist between biological parents and kids.  When they say that step-parents feel strange to them, they aren’t kidding.  Why do people take this so lightly?

Okay so this post is a total ramble.  I’m just totally stuck on the other thing I’m trying to write and am wasting time on this.



Exemplary Children of Divorce – Barry Manilow

Blockbuster singer/songwriter Barry Manilow is a Child of D.  Manilow’s parents divorced just after he turned 2 years old and he grew up with his Mother and Grandparents in Brooklyn, New York.   Manilow changed his last name to his Mother’s maiden name when he was around 13 years old.  I’m not sure how much of a relationship he had with his Father.

Both parents remarried.  Manilow’s Mother remarried at some point in the late 1950′s.  Manilow would have been in his mid to late teens. Manilow credits his Step-Father with having introduced him to Jazz.

I’m unclear about sibling relationships.  According to a website, Manilow was raised basically as an only child, but had two step-brothers from his Mother’s remarriage.  He possibly has a step-brother and a half-brother through his Father’s remarriage.  I’m not real sure about this information, though.

Below is an except of an interview on the TV show Larry King Live from 2002 in which Manilow desribes his childhood.  (Full transcript of the show is here. //transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0205/17/1k1.00html. Sorry, I messed up the link thingee).  Manilow had just put out an album called Here at the Mayflower which apparently was based on the apartment building where he and his family (Mother’s side) lived.  It featured two hits  “Turn the Radio Up” and “They Dance.”  Manilow’s music is all about being positive and making people feel good.  “Turn the Radio Up” is about using music to combat misery and worry.

According to Wikipedia, Manilow is Jewish on his Mother’s side and Jewish-Irish on his Father’s side.  His Step-Father is Irish.

KING: Was your childhood tough?

MANILOW: No. I don’t say it was tough. No.

KING: Your parents were divorced?

MANILOW: Parents were divorced. I was raised by my mother and my grandparents and a lot of relatives around this Williamsburg, Brooklyn, Mayflower…

KING: Jewish neighborhood?

MANILOW: Jewish neighborhood, Jewish, Puerto Rican. It was very ethnic. I loved it.

KING: But your stepfather though was Irish, right?

MANILOW: Yes. I just saw him. He lives down in…

KING: You close?

MANILOW: Well, we’re not close. He lives in Florida and I don’t. But he was the guy that turned my musical motor on.

KING: Really?

MANILOW: Well, before Willie Murphy (ph) came into my life, I was playing the accordion, and “Have Nagila” and all of the folk songs that my grandparents loved.

KING: Worked at bar mitzvahs?

MANILOW: Well, I should have been so lucky. I wasn’t even up to bar mitzvahs. I was just playing folk songs on the accordion.

KING: (UNINTELLIGIBLE)

MANILOW: You got it. And I wasn’t bad, believe it or not. But that would have been it, had Willie not come into my life.

KING: What did he do?

MANILOW: He came into my life with a stack of albums that turned my musical motor on. He brought a stereo system in that I never had and a stack of albums that had people like Stan Kenton and June Christy and Broadway show music like “The Most Happy Fella” and “Kismet” and “Kiss me, Kate” and on and on. It was a stack of gold.



Two New Movies: “Twilight” and “Rachel Getting Married”

I haven’t been going to many movies lately but this week-end I’ve gone to two.  Both were about Children of Divorce.

First was Twilight.  It’s a teeny bopper Vampire movie.  The heroine, Bella, a high school Junior, moves to the Pacific Northwest to live with her Father who she hasn’t really spent much time with.  Her Mother has just remarried a baseball player who travels around the country a lot so she can’t keep Bella around.   Relations with Dad are awkward and there are a lot of telephone calls with Mom.  Nobody, absolutely nobody, is angry.

However, the Pacific Northwest being what it is, everyone is pretty much depressed and pale, very pale.  What a great situation for meeting and falling in love with a Vampire in Chemistry class.  Vampires like the sunless landscape because they can hang around during the day.  Anyhoo, all kinds of trauma erupts out of from this awkward, romantic, very steamy and innocent relationship.  The Vampire is sort of a Vegetarian vampire who doesn’t kill people but he sure does lust after their blood.  Bella throws herself right after him because she has some sort of compulsive need to prove that she can trust a guy with such intense instincts to hurt her.  Is that Child of D stuff, or what?  At any rate, I guess Vampire psychology involves all things that can wrong with … Blood Ties, ah hem…

I didn’t know what I was going to see and I liked the movie okay.  The kids who read the books seem to universally think the movie is awful.

Out of curiosity I tried to see if the writer, Stephenie Meyer is a child of D.  Apparently not; she just really worshipped the Brady Bunch as a kid.  That’s so annoying.

The other movie I saw is called “Rachel Getting Married.”  It’s a psychological drama about being psycho in a family setting.  Kym is the psycho, very well performed by Anne Hathaway.  She is an addict who is getting out of rehab to attend her Sister’s Wedding. The tensions of adjusting to real life in such an intense week-end sort of brings out her whole story.  At 16 Kym committed an unpardonable sin while high and has to confront all of her family members over this for the first time sober.  All the while preparing for the festivities.  By the time she puts on the Brides Maid’s dress she is covered with scratches and has a Black Eye.

The relationship with the parents is well portrayed from a Child of D point of View.  The Father is the dominant care taker. He’s loving and caring and completely forgiving.  The Mother is the negative character who is left out and can’t deal with her sub-par role in the whole hierarchy.  The Step Mother is totally cool and never complains about a thing.  She also doesn’t leave the Father alone for a minute with the kids. I wouldn’t be surprised if these filmmakers really do come from Divorce. One of them certainly must be a step-parent.

Both movies portray positive images of Step Parents.  That’s good for the Step-Parents.  It might be good for the kids as well as they might get a piece of their inheritance down the road if they maintain a low profile in the family.

As a matter of fact I’m seeing nothing but positive images of Step-parents in the media.  The new Coke commercial has a joyous jingle for the Season about the joys of Coca-Cola and Step-Families.  Since all kinds of new scientific evidence is coming out about the toxicity of carbonated beverages I guess this makes sense.  Plus, we all know who is in charge of Daddy’s money — Step-Mothers are a great target for the marketers.  (Reminder:  I’m not talking about all step-parents here, only the ones to whom it applies.  Unfortunately, these people don’t know, or care, who they are).

I’m beginning to notice the way that Step-Mothers are very critical of Biological mothers.  This happens in the movies and it happens more in real life.  (Miaow, the cat fight never ends.)  It certainly happened in my family.  Women are still treating each other like poo.  Liberation has a ways to go.

Neither movie showed Step-Sibling relations.  The relationship between Rachel and Kym in “Rachel Getting Married” is very strong.  Sibling relationships that go through this extra stress, of course, are going to be different from those in Intact families.  Either the bonds are stronger or they are considered as ridiculous and expendable as the parents’ marriage.  I don’t know if studies have been done.  Probably not.



Bad Children of Divorce – Karl Rove

I regret having starting this category called “Bad Children of Divorce.”  I sound like somebody’s Step-Mother already.  The word “Bad” should be replaced with something like “Notorious” or “Misinformed.”  Once you read what these people go through from their families it’s really difficult to call them “Bad.”  Well, Rove seems to have been born a right-winger which is not necessarily good, but still.

I’m writing this to compare with the next blog entry about Barack Obama’s Advisor who is also a Child of Divorce.  They are comparable in their understandings of how to work the systems, how to manipulate, depth of understanding of human nature, and also in a really creepy way, their actual stories.  (Pay attention to Age 19 for both men.)

Ex-Deputy White House Chief of Staff, Karl Rove is a Child of Divorce. He was a Child of a Really Crazy unhappy Divorce too.  Most of Bush’s political successes and failures are attributed to Rove’s strategic planning. His opinions are abnormally right wing and considering the family he grew up in this doesn’t make sense.

According to Wikipedia and other internet sources Karl Rove’s biological Father left his Mother when Rove was still very young. I’m still working on trying to find out what age. At the time Rove had one older brother. The Father was a Geologist.

Rove’s Mother married a second time to another Geologist. Rove grew up thinking this man was his Biological Father which wasn’t really that abnormal for that generation. It was certainly a stressful game for the parents to have to play, though, and the shame resulting from such games and the shock on the child when he/she finds out later is a good reason for keeping Divorce up and running in society.  Best to make it safe for people to admit what they’ve done and move on.

The family had 3 more children; I believe two girls and another boy.

At Age 9 Rove was beaten up by a girl for defending Richard Nixon. In High School he says that he was a totally uncool nerd.

Karl Rove’s adopted Step-Father left his Mother and his family on Dec. 24, 1969 because he was Gay. This would have been the day before Rove’s 19th Birthday.

According to the website “The Carpet Bagger Report” Rove’s Mother took off shortly after and left Rove to fend for himself in College. She contacted him later on when he was in his mid-20′s when she needed money. In 1981 she committed suicide by gassing herself in her car in Reno, NV. If the following link is legitimate you can read Karl Rove’s emotional description of having to deal with this: http://www.thecarpetbaggerreport.com/archives/8531.html. It’s pretty sad. Basically he was abandoned and rejected by both of his real parents.

Meanwhile, at some point between the ages of 19 and 21, an Aunt and Uncle had told Karl that his adopted step-father was not his Biological Father. One account I read said that he met his biological father while in his 40s.

Karl Rove did not graduate from College.

Rove’s adopted step-father died in Palm Springs around 2004 from Lung Cancer. It is said they had a loving relationship although Rove is extremely anti-Gay.

Rove married his first wife in 1977. This marriage lasted only until 1979.

He has been married to his 2d wife since 1986. They have one son, Andrew, in 1989.



Blog Stats again
March 7, 2008, 4:44 am
Filed under: Good Step-Parent Stories, Uncategorized

Some kid found this site through the following search:

“my stepmom caught me jerking”

Cute. Very cute. That’s a really difficult age.

Hope he found some sage advice somewhere for his predicament.

And may his stepmom be having a glass of wine for her troubles.



Exemplary Children of Divorce – Julie Andrews

The Hills are Alive With the Sound of Music…

Julie Andrews, that Great Nanny of Stage and Screen, is Child of D. She’s played every fairy tale character of single family households on Broadway, at the Movies and on TV: Mary Poppins, Sound of Music, Cinderella.

Andrews’ parents divorced when she was around 4. Her theatrical Mother fell in love with another actor, Ted Andrews, and her parents separated. Ted Andrews became Andrews Stepfather. Andrews’ Father also remarried. “I’ve got more mothers and fathers than anyone in the world.” (Wikipedia)

At first Andrews lived with her Father but moved in with her Mother and StepFather in order to develop her Musical talents. The entire family performed together. Andrews changed her name to her StepFather’s last name.

Andrews is herself once divorced and twice married. Her first marriage to Tony Walton lasted 14 years. They had a daughter, Emma Kate. Andrews is still married to her second husband, Blake Edwards. They have 2 daughters together, Amy and Joanna.

ADDITION:  I’ve recently read that Julie Andrews has published an autobiography admitting that she was molested by her step-father.



Exemplary Children of Divorce – The Beatles

I remember once an Interview with Paul McCartney where the Interviewer asked Paul what he thought about current Rock music. Paul said he liked it but that he was proud that the Beatles sent out a message of Love rather than some of the darker messages of the current times. This made me particularly curious to check into the childhoods of the Beatles. Were they from loving homes themselves?

John Lennon’s parents were split. His Father was a Merchant Marine and was gone most of the time when John was very young. John’s Mother was left alone with severe money problems. When John’s Father returned 1944 his Mother didn’t want him around anymore. Lennon was around 4 years old at the time. His Mother’s Sister called social services and basically took John from his Mother so John lived with his Aunt and Uncle through most of his childhood.

In July, 1946 John’s Father abducted his Son with the intention of taking him to New Zealand. (John Lennon would have been on the side of a Milk Carton, Age 6!!!!). When the Mother wanted to come along also John was given the choice of deciding which parent he wanted to go with. Well, I think this is a wise thing on the part of the parents in some cases but astrologically it can be seen as child abuse in this case. The reason being John Lennon was a Libra Sun. Libras don’t like to make decisions, they don’t like to chose, they can’t because they can always see both sides of an issue. (This is a quote of Lennon’s in which you can see this kind of thing going on:  “I remember a time when everybody I love hated me because I hate them.”)  At any rate, this event must have completely traumatized him. He chose his Father twice but ran after his Mother as she walked away. He never saw his Father again until much later on when he was an adult. Lennon was raised by his Aunt and Uncle in Liverpool and led a Middle Class life after that. His Mother stayed in his life and taught him to play the banjo. He got his first guitar in 1957. He met Paul McCartney at Age 15 on July 6, 1957.

Tragically, Lennon’s Mother was hit by a car and killed on July 15, 1958. The deaths of their Mothers is said to have been a strong bonding element between John Lennon and Paul McCartney. Dropped out of Art School.

Paul McCartney’s parents did not Divorce, but his Mother died of Breast Cancer when McCartney was 13 years old (Oct. 31, 1956). As I just said McCartney met Lennon in 1957. He had met with George Harrison on the Bus in 1954 when he was 11. Dropped out of school.

Ringo Starr. Child of Divorce. His parents split when he was 3 years old. His Mother remarried and Starr liked his Step-father. He was a sickly child and dropped out of school when he was 13.

George Harrison came from a “Intact” Family.

What also fascinated me, was that, considering they were Rock Stars, the Beatles all enjoyed long-term marriage in their own right. Well, there were some nasty power plays. Yoko Ono broke up Lennon’s first marriage. And Patti Boyd left Harrison for his friend, Eric Clapton. Ouch.

I took a quick look at the family situation of the women involved in these relationships to see what kind of a family household they grew up in. Most of them grew up in the War so there were real problems but the families were intact.

From what I can gleam from their histories, Yoko Ono, Linda McCartney, Barbara Bach, Pattie Boyd and Harrison’s last wife, Olivia Trinidad Avias were all from Intact Families. Cynthia Lennon, John’s first wife, suffered the loss of her Father at Age 17.  So, little groupie girls who want to strike it rich, take heed. Beware of this fact amongst your competition. If you hesitate in your relationships or give things a second glance or act in any way befuddled by Romance’s ability to fail or doubt your loveability, you are probably capable of you’ll miss out on some powerfully, fun times. In other words, I don’t think you can’t compete with these girls.  You’re gonna have to make your own (and probably) better life.

Heather Mills McCartney is from a really nasty Divorced family situation, by the way. She’s got some good qualities but also some really nasty unresolved problems.



Tigers, Stepfathers and Wild Animal Farms

The San Francisco Bay Guardian is running a story this week about the tiger who was killed on Christmas Day at the San Francisco Zoo. The Tiger, named Tatiana, somehow got out of her enclosure in order to attack some boys who by most accounts were taunting her. The newspaper story is called “Tiger Tales” and is written by Craig McLaughlin. The reason why I’m including the link here:

http://www.sfbg.com/entry.php?entry_id=5378&volume_id=317&issue_id=334&volume_num=42&issue_num=15&l=1.

is because the writer spent the latter half of his upbringing on his Stepfather’s wild animal farm and slept 100 feet away from a Siberian Tiger like Tatiana. He knows the Tigers. He shares his knowledge of tiger behaviors and the story is just really interesting.  It’s nice to include a positive Stepfather story.

Here’s a bit:

“People have often asked me over the years why my stepfather had all of his animals. I like to tell them it was because he thought he was Tarzan. It’s not the absolute truth, but it is as valid as any other answer.”

Dhat’s soooo cuoooote. If your stepfather can love a big scary animal I guess he will be able to love you too. If you don’t behave, well, then, it’s to “Tiger Island” you go. (some of those scary beatches on the stepparents’ forums will be getting all kinds of ideas.)

McLaughlin gives all kinds of opinions that I don’t agree with. He says that the two brothers who taunted Tatiana are not to blame for their actions and meanwhile the news has been full of stories about what assholes they are. There’s no way in Hell they are not responsible for this tragedy. Probably spoiled brats from a normal family who have just never had to think about anyone else in their lives. 23 years old and still living at home. You don’t find that in Divorce. Christmas Day, Crap. Who has time for the Zoo? First you wake up at your Mother’s, open presents, wait for phone call, leave Mother sobbing by herself with bottle of Vodka, go to Father’s, listen to Stepfamily brag about how decadent their lives are now that they’re squandering your Father’s money, all parents drunk, all kinds of strangers walking in and out, kissy kissy, who’s Stepmother screwing now?, Grandparents crying, asking about Mother, Father shuddering at talk about Mother, long dinner, more presents, grinning, grinning, kissy kissy, drive back home, Mother’s smashed and getting ready to go out to the Bar. Now these Brothers have the nerve to sue the Zoo. (they got their friend killed by the way). I also don’t really place as much blame on the Zoo Director as McLaughlin does. That Zoo has had non-stop problems since before he got there. This guy sounds like a complacent autocrat. San Francisco has a rich tradition of blaming the authority figures. I lived there for many years and was fascinated by how few Children of D. could stand living in the place. I’d make a friend, Child of D. of course, they’d start screaming about how they can’t live in a Gingerbread City and move away so they can be around real people. The Children of Normal Families (Children of N.F.’s?) go to Support Groups forever and ever and ever and never stop complaining about their parents. And they are all divorced themselves (at least once) and doing a screwy job of raising their own kids so they get really defensive about this one sensitive topic.  And they’re all Therapissssssssts.

At any rate, my Solution would be that some Rich Family needs to donate land so that the Zoo can be moved. It’s not fair to place such large sensitive animals so close to major traffic and shopping malls and teenagers on meth (hey, it’s San Francisco). Sorry. Just had to get in my two cents worth.

Read the story, it’s really nice.



Inspirational Success Story – Gerald Ford

With the Holidays ramping up we’re feeling a little attacked already by all the embalmed Santas swinging Bells in our faces as we pay for our tranquilizers at the pharmacy check-out lines.  Because of the negativity of this situation I have decided to add Inspirational Success Stories of Children of Divorce for Good Cheer.  According to the Psychologists, about 75 percent of all Children of Divorce are completely fine suffering no fall out from having grown up in their Bipolar families.  It’s important to give these people credit.

I am going to begin listing Astonishingly Great Children of Divorce who have grown up and performed admirably in spite of the fact that they are spoiled because they received two presents at the Holidays and yanked their parents’ chains in all kinds of ways that only manipulative, guilt freaking children will do.

First on the list is President Gerald Ford.  Now that he’s passed people are remembering what a nice guy he was.  However, nobody really appreciated him all that much while he was President; his short tenure was spent cleaning up after his predecessor who he pardoned against the wishes of many.  But, Hey, Dude grew up in a Divorced Family and was in the habit of forgiving people.  Pardon Nixon?  Sure buddy, no problem. It’s all good. No worries.

Gerald Ford’s Mother split from his Father when Gerald was 16 days old because Dad chased her down while yielding a large Butcher Knife.  Ford’s Mother remarried and Ford was adopted by his Step-Father.  He wasn’t told about his Biological Father until he was 17.  This was a pretty common way to handle matters back in those days.  When he was 17, Ford’s real Father approached him at his little waitering job and gave him the lowdown about his past.  According to the Wiki article they stayed in touch but Ford always considered his Step-Father to be his real Father. Those Butcher Knife stories are generally pretty alienating.

Thanks Ger!  You’re a true inspiration and may you rest easy up there on whatever cloud they’ve got you floating around on!

I guess I’ll add a link for “Good Step-Parents” and “Evil Step-Parents” down below just to keep track of these guys.

The link to the Wikipedia biography on Gerald Ford is here:  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gerald_Ford




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