DVD on Divorce and Stepfamilies – Resource List
Ronald McDonald House Charities has published a DVD of a PBS show about Stepfamilies called Divorce & Stepfamilies: Breaking Apart & Coming Together.
I found it at the Public Library. If interested it can always be obtained from the Library through Interlibrary Loan.
Some Resources listed on the Information Sheet:
Covenant House Nineline: 800 999-9999
Boys and Girls Town Hotline: 800-448-3000
Childhelp: 800-422-4453
Stepfamily Association of America: 800-735-0329 // www.saafamilies.org
The Children’s Rights Council: 301-559-3120 // www.vix.com/crc
It’s My Life: Dealing With Divorce: pbskids.org/itsmylife/family/divorce
In the Mix: Divorce & Stepfamilies Program: inthemix.org/divorce_index.html
Jen Abbas’ Blog – Generation Ex
Here’s a link to the Top 40 Divorce Songs as selected by Jen Abbas, author of Generation Ex. I haven’t looked at that book. There’s a link to her website.
http://generationexfiles.blogspot.com/2005/11/soundtrack-for-children-of-divorce.html.
Another Link, Mostly StepMothers Bitching About StepDaughters
Here’s another link to a website where stepmothers talk about their evil stepchildren. If you’ve ever worked in an office full of catty women you know how torturous these bitches can be. They use the word “evil” towards 3 year old kids who are in the middle of really rotten childhoods and never take the time to explain what their part in the problem is. Simply the Children are Evil. These women see themselves as innocent young things, victim of everything that happens, full of love and light, are viewing evil for the first time in their lives and blaming it on small children. Isn’t this just a really weird mythology? Only a couple of the answers showed anyone with any parenting skills at all. None of these stepparents questions any of their own attitudes or behaviors. They expect the kids to answer to their beck and call. There was another website of parents discussing living arrangements with each other ad nauseum. Man, the details, the resentment, the nit-picking. At least if they’re doing it on the Internet their kids aren’t listening to them talk to each other on the phone like my generation did.
I think I may have already said this. But. If a woman is attracted to a man who is easygoing, the man will also be an easygoing parent, probably sort of negligent also. Kids who have negligent parents become little control freaks because they have to take care of themselves. The parents also marry people who are control freaks. You can’t put the positive end of a magnetic next to another positive end of a magnet, they repel each other. If this is your 2d, 5th, 13th marriage, then take it for granted that something is wrong with you especially with that special kind of “Love” you profess to have. Kids, Dogs, even the Toaster and the Computer will react to that, and not in a good way.
Folks, I’ll use your own words on you: “Just Get Over It!!!!”
http://websearch.cs.com/cs/boomframe.jsp?query=evil+step+parents&page=4&offset=0&result_url=redir%3Fsrc%3Dwebsearch%26requestId%3D97974ec15bdd353c%26clickedItemRank%3D46%26userQuery%3Devil%2Bstep%2Bparents%26clickedItemURN%3Dhttp%253A%252F%252Fwww.wis.sa.gov.au%252Fdiscuss_topic_display.asp%253Fid%253D85%26invocationType%3Dnext%26fromPage%3DCSNextPrevB%26amp%3BampTest%3D1&remove_url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.wis.sa.gov.au%2Fdiscuss_topic_display.asp%253Fid%253D85
Oprah to the Rescue
Here’s a link I just found to an Oprah show called Children of Divorce Share Their Secret Thoughts. http://www2.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200709/tows_past_20070926.jhtml.
There’s nothing secret about kids go through. It’s silenced by everyone else who can’t or won’t handle it. When I graduated from High School I shook hands and congratulated 2 other girls not for the academic success but for having survived our bitter, mean, alcoholic mothers (all single, of course).
It’s sort of dragging me down to write this blog so don’t know how much longer I’ll keep it going. Also, I think WordPress has spyware issues.