Spoiled Children of Divorce


Step-Mother sentenced to die by lethal injection for murder of step-daughter

Stephanie Moss is a 36-year-old Atlanta woman who was found guilty of starving her step-daughter, 10-year old Emani, to death back in 2013. This is a Yahoo article and is lacking all kinds of information.

This article says that Emani’s Father was sentenced in 2015 and is facing a life sentence. He admitted to burning the 10-year old’s 32 pound body and putting it in the apartment trash cans. It seems that Tiffany is using the Judicial System to commit suicide because she didn’t retain a lawyer for her defense and didn’t speak when asked to represent herself. She will be murdered by lethal injection in June if no one comes to her defense. There is no mention of whether Emani went to school or was seen in public.

Really tragic case. Please hand your child over to Protective Services before it gets to this. I took a sociology class last year on Family Dynamics and there was a whole chapter on Divorce. Yay. I did another little research project on filicide and some research actually shows that step-parents are less likely to abuse the step-children than the biological parents. I’ve read elsewhere that police will automatically suspect a step-father in any household where a child is harmed. So, I’m not sure which is true at this point and have no clarity on this issue whatsoever.



Exemplary Children of Divorce – Gavin Newsom

For the first time ever, California the Divorce State extraordinaire, has put its money where its mouth is and elected leaders who are Children of Divorce. This is all within the last year. The Divorce State, which chooses not to share its divorce statistics with the CDC, has chronically avoided electing its progenies. What happens to all of those children of all those messed up people who are going through divorce and why don’t we ever hear​ about them?

Now suddenly we have Senator Kamala Harris and Governor Gavin Newsom. I posted about Harris before so will quickly look at Newsom’s biography. Newsom was born in San Francisco in 1967. That’s the Summer of Love. Don’t know if his parents were hippies. His Father was a lawyer and Justice so probably not. Newsom’s parents separated when he was 2 years old and divorced in 1972 when he would have been around 5 years old. He moved to Marin County with his Mother and Sister. I would have thought that he grew up wealthy but apparently just the opposite. His Mother had to work at 3 jobs to support their family. In spite of that,​ she took in Foster Children. Newsom’s Father apparently gave away all his money. He was a part-time lawyer in Truckee, CA who also worked at working-class​ jobs. Newsom would see his Father every few months when his Father would take him to political events​. Some good old divorced Daddy parenting here? Newsom struggled​ with dyslexia. It sounds like he bounced around in schools quite a bit. Okay, so it looks like Newsom’s ACE score might be a little high and he ended up as Mayor of San Francisco and is now Governor of California.

In High School Newsom worked at many janitorial jobs. He graduated from Santa Clara University with a major in Political Science. He attended on a partial baseball scholarship. He started a winery business which was funded by Gordon Getty. His Father was a lawyer for Getty. So Newsom has had good social connections. I’m sorry to sound catty about that but it’s important to analyze the situation. I mean, he’s a cool Dude, but California’s got lots of cool dudes. Newsom discusses his childhood here in a very interesting interview where he talks about things you do to connect with a divorced parent. https://www.kqed.org/news/11696701/gavin-newsom-on-his-childhood-personal-growth-and-teenage-wine-cellar.
Newsom has been married twice. He currently has four children with his wife Jennifer Siebel. His Mother passed away early on. She never knew his kids. His Father is still alive and struggles with dementia.

Best part is Newsom is putting extra efforts into supporting Children with Traumatic childhood pasts according to this article.



Heartbreaking Mother/Daughter Talk

Okay, so this is real. You’ll never hear one of the get help people talk about it. But, it’s real. I’ve overheard similar things. I’ve lived similar things.

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Memoirs About Growing Up in Divorce

For some reason I suddenly became aware that there are several memoirs written by Children of Divorce. Just in case you need company during the Holidays…

(I haven’t read any of them yet)

Susan Thomas
In Spite of Everything

Clair Dederer
Poser

Mark Crandall
Eulogy of Childhood Memories

Amanda Stern
Little Panic: Dispatches from an Anxious Life



Sarah Colonna and Father’s Day Cards

Just heard comedian Sarah Colonna’s special called I Can’t Feel My Legs on Amazon Prime. Hope it’s ok to quote or paraphrase a part of her skit. I can’t write that fast and can’t read some of it. Awesome that the audience claps when she cracks a joke about having 2 dads. It might be safe to assume that she is a Child of Divorce but can’t say for sure. You don’t hear very many jokes about extended family stuff. A long time ago I was at a Comedy night and the comedian took a poll of the audience looking for Children of Divorce to see if it was worth it to crack Divorce jokes. He decided against. Only one girl raised her hand.

“I hate single grocery shopping because I’m not home a lot. I’m not in town a lot so I only buy a quick few things when I’m out at the grocery store.

I guess I need to make a list. Because if you make a list then you can look at what all your items altogether might look like to someone else when they’re in the basket.

Here’s an example. I was grocery shopping this (unknown word, can’t read my writing) in June which will make sense in a second. I was grocery shopping and had everything on the conveyor belt and there were two guys, early 30s and they were staring at me. ‘Oh here we go. Can’t even go to the grocery store anymore.’ I was bending over. Then I realize they’re not looking at me. They’re looking at the conveyor belt.

And that’s when I became painfully aware of what was on there. I had 2 bottles of vodka, you know, with the handle, the kind with the handle, tampons, skittles. I was hungry. And two Father’s Day cards (laughter & clapping). It’s like, O My God! Look at that girl with her period, her drinking problem, and all those Dads!!!”



Bullying and Step-Families

With all the mention of Bullying in the news I don’t think I’ve ever heard mention of how this happens in Step-Families. Unlike schoolyard bullying, bullying at home by step-parents is never addressed by the biological parents. They will sit back and watch it happen. The Teachers at school will sit back and watch it happen. Psychologists never do anything for anyone so I suppose I should not have mentioned them in the first place. The options are either for the child to ask to live with the other parent or another relative like a Grandparent or to tell a teacher so that Social Services will remove him/her from the home. All I can say, speaking from experience, is: do it.

If a child is bullied by a family like this he/she will be marked to be bullied later on in life. In family a child can’t escape this type of irrational behavior.



Okay, So if Mom’s Stressed, You’re Stressed, unless it involves Divorce and Then You’re Fine, Just Fine. But, Mom’s Still Stressed
August 30, 2018, 12:30 am
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Psychiatrist finds that trauma crosses generations.