Spoiled Children of Divorce


Exemplary Children of Divorce – Noah Baumbach

Noah Baumbach is the Director/Writer of one of the few true movies about going through a Divorce, The Squid and the Whale.  It is said to be based on experiences he went through during his own parents’ divorce.  Baumbach’s biography is a little sketchy so I’m not sure of his age at the time of his parent’s divorce.  I’m assuming he was around Age 15 or 16.

The Squid and the Whale is about a family living in Brooklyn in the mid-80s.  The parents are intellectuals, both writers, the Father is going through a mid-life crisis and down-turn in his career and ego and the Mother’s career is just taking off.  The sons are age 12 and age 16.  The movie does a great job of showing the strangeness of going through adolescence while also going through the parents’ divorce.

I saw the movie a while ago and thought it a little dry.  The significance of the Squid and the Whale is explained at the end but I was spacing out at that point.  Sorry.

Supposedly the first words were the 12 year old Son saying:  “Me and Mom against you and Dad.”  That definitely sums it up pretty well.

There’s a great article at indiewire which analyzes the relationships.  http://www.indiewire.com/article/noahs_arc_noah_baumbachs_the_squid_and_the_whale

Here’s a quote about how narcissistic parents raise their kids in divorce.  Can hardly wait for the sequel with Step-Parents and siblings:

“the parental choice to treat children as equals can be admirable but also suggests a deeper selfishness that seems fundamentally at odds with the job.”


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