Spoiled Children of Divorce

Women Who Kill Because of Divorce
April 2, 2009, 7:17 pm
Filed under: Alcoholism, Uncategorized, Violence

Article explaining the 6 types of women who murder their children and their motives.  Divorce is not mentioned as a cause.  How strange is that?  This is probably very common in divorced families.  My Mother tried to commit suicide several times and, after my brother left for college, was threatening to kill me because in her words it’s not worth it for a woman to live through this.  I talked about this with the first therapist I went to.  I remember how self-conscious I felt trying to cry for him as he said that he detected redness in my eyes.

Over the years my insomnia from this event has become increasingly worse, not better.  I don’t remember the events very well at all but can instantly feel the terror in my stomach as my mother was yelling that she had bought a gun from her boyfriend and was going to shoot me in my sleep.

The article below says that 600 children a year are killed by their Mothers.  This means that a much greater number is living with the constant threats the way I did.  I never really believed that my Mother would kill me and never discussed it with anyone.  It was just part of a huge set of episodes that were related to the Divorce.  (from:  http://www.expertclick.com/newsreleasewire/default.cfm?Action-Release Detail/ID-10548):

: Mothers who murder their children
Los Angeles, CA October 21 2005
More than 600 mothers kill their children each year, which gives rise to a psychological condition described as “maternal filicide,” according to a child psychologist who has reviewed the worldwide research on this topic.
“There are six major personality profiles of mothers who kill their children,” said Los Angeles psychologist Robert R. Butterworth, Ph.D. He describes what the psychological research tells us about the different types of mothers who murder their children and their possible motivations:– The Mentally Ill Mother: A woman who may be acutely psychotic, having serious psychological disturbances starting from her own childhood or her parents, which may be instrumental in causing her own psychological problem to surface. An inadequacy in handling aggression, probably originating from a disturbed relationship with the murderer’s own parents, which could include hereditary influences.
— The Retaliating Mother: A woman who is jealous of her husband and envious of the child because of the attention that it receives from others, whereas the mother may have had little or no attention in her own childhood, which leads to a disturbed, immature, nongiving relationship with the child. The filicide could be motivated by revenge, especially with male children; the mother’s anger toward the child’s father may be displaced onto the male child, who reminds the mother of the child’s father.
— The Depressed Mother: Research shows that more than a third of the mothers killed their children under the influence of depression or what could be an extended form of suicide: “I kill the one I most love — my child.” Thus a child is particularly vulnerable when a depressive illness is present. The risk becomes high when depressive illness is combined with certain types of personality structures.
— The Unwanted or Unexpected Mother: Unwanted or unplanned children, especially in countries where birth control and abortion are difficult to obtain, are more likely to suffer from maternal filicide.
— The Merciful Mother: A sick or diseased child is killed by the loving mother to protect the child from pain and suffering.
— The Battering Mother: In a fit of rage, they accidentally batter the child to death.
Other findings:
— The high frequency of altruistic motives distinguish filicide from other homicides.
— Crime statistics show that mothers are more rarely or more mildly punished for filicide than fathers.
— Mothers kill children only, but men who kill their children are more likely to kill their wives.
— Suicide or attempted suicide following the crime was also more likely with fathers.

Robert Butterworth

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