Spoiled Children of Divorce


Birth Order Changes Not Mentioned Again

It’s as if the past 40 years of Divorce Boom haven’t happened among Birth Order aficionados.  Article “How Birth Order Affects Your Love Life” by Lisa Lombardi sounds straight out of Psychology Today c. 1978.

The article doesn’t mention Divorce.  It doesn’t mention Step- and Blended Families.  Of course it doesn’t mention children of unmarried parents, children who have had a parent who died, children who have grown up Foster Families or children who are adopted.   Those are the people who need the information.  Kids from these backgrounds all experience shifts of birth order.  I suppose that it’s most likely that an oldest child will be least likely to experience change of birth order.  I suppose that they might be most hurt by loss of being first.  Middle children probably won’t experience the greatest upheaval but they might be most upset because they are naturally least noticed and demanding and most accommodating.

If we live in an open minded community where people bob in and out of relationships like it’s Halloween, then why are we so close minded about what we are forcing the babies to go through?

It’s just so weird that nobody even thinks to update this b.s.  It would be a big seller probably.  Maybe it would be too complicated to contain within one of those slim self help books, though.  DSM-9,000,000.

Anyway, read the article.   Think about who you are most likely to get involved with and see if it lines up.

Geez, I’m getting way too negative even for me.  Have run out of exemplary children of divorce to write about.


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