Spoiled Children of Divorce


California and Divorce

Having grown up in California and having grown up in the 60s and 70s in California when the no fault divorce law came into effect I’ve always been amazed by the level of hypocrisy towards the topic which this state embraces.

The No-Fault divorce law was created in 1969 and was signed into effect in 1970.  It was created to try to make Divorce a less difficult and stressful experience.  Within the next 5 years probably half the married couples in the State were divorced.  We all got through that time by watching “The Brady Bunch” on TV.  It also wasn’t atypical for kids to get together to talk about their drunk and stoned out parents and how there wasn’t any food in the refrigerator.  Kids were doing all the housework while Mom and Dad dated.  The psychologists became very rich.  Many Mothers became psychologists because they figured that being a Mom naturally led to being a shrink.  What they didn’t know is that they weren’t the caretakers in their families.  Their kids were probably absorbing all their talk about personal problems, failed relationships, stressed out finances, where to live, what to eat.  It wasn’t the other way around.  Am not sure about the Statistics but I remember hearing years ago that one in seven people living in San Francisco was a lawyer.  I’ve also read that San Francisco has the lowest amount of children of all the cities in California.  People move to San Francisco to repeat their childhoods.  Amazingly, when I lived there I noticed that most did not actually come from Divorced families themselves (natives did, of course).

I’ve mentioned many times my frustration that the CDC keeps statistics about divorced households for every state except California.  This is Bull Shit, of course.  It’s an extremely deceptive and dishonest way to keep statistics.  Don’t know if they’ve changed during the past year or so since I last checked, but have seen some articles which have turned to the Census bureau for statistics.  I have read a few anecdotal types of articles which say that the Divorce rate for California is around 75 percent.  Since California is the most heavily populated state I imagine that this would raise the National average a bit but what do I know?

What really amazes me is how the Governors of California, a state which touts extreme liberal views (these are true only if one visits select towns and cities along the coast, a total lie for anyone who travels 5 miles inland), has not only never had a woman Governor but has also never had a Governor who grew up in a Divorced family.

I’ve pondered before on this blog about how I think that Children of Divorce, having had to be the adults in their relationships with their parents, or at least having had to grow up much more quickly than the other kids at school, have no or little interest in becoming Governors.  Who the Hell would want to govern a bunch of single parents?  I mean, really.

Can’t remember if I posted on it but I do remember trying to wiki my way through all the Governors in the United States to see if this is typical across the entire country.  It seemed that the Statistics were very low.  I can’t remember what I found, but vaguely remember (and my memory is indeed vague) that the percentage was something like 10 percent of U.S. Governors come from Divorced homes. I never actually added the numbers because many people don’t discuss their childhoods and parental situations.

Barack Obama is from Divorce, though.  So, things may change in this regard.  He was a Senator before he became President.  I’ve mentioned before about how I think that being a Senator might be  something that Children of Divorce would gravitate towards.  Legislation and standing around saying “Can’t we all just get along?” while everyone else fights seems to right up a Child of D’s alley. There’s no way I’m going to research childhoods of Senators.  There are tons of them.  And that’s only one legislative branch.  From the way Congress is going, I’d say that many members of that branch have probably been through stuff that nobody is ever going to talk about.

California does have female Senators but they didn’t grow up in Divorced families.  I think that Politics is a necessary evil so it doesn’t interest me.

So, from the top, we can see why the silence on growing up in Divorce.  People who come from Intact homes just know that Children of D get 2 presents at Christmas and therefore are spoiled. I have no doubt that this includes all the Governors of California’s present and past who just want to give off the aura of a bucolic lifestyle full of total personal freedom.

Voters vote for people who will represent their own personal agenda.  And no one thinks that Divorced kids represent their own agenda. Even the kids who grew up in divorce because even if they’re successful at what they do they didn’t get there by discussing that particular part of their lives.  They probably became successful because they threw themselves into an occupation with more energy than the competition because they had no where else to hang out during childhood and adolescence and college.  There’s no affirmative action for kids from Divorce even though statistics show a very reduced rate for College graduates.  In the land of Psychologists and Lawyers and Real Estate Agents there are no studies about growing up in Divorce.  When you think about it, these are the professions which thrive on a high Divorce Rate.  In Political terms, growing up in divorce ought to be called “The Pity Party.”


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