Spoiled Children of Divorce


When I was 14 my parents got divorced and my life collapsed into utter Hell. Having been through the requisite “years of psychotherapy,” I’m confident in saying that psychology and psychiatry don’t recognize the stress of growing up in a divorced family. I personally think that for many of us that’s like saying that the Holocaust didn’t happen.

What I’m doing on this blog, “Whiner” that I am, is trying to gather together and study what little literature exists about growing up in a Divorced Family. I’m part of the Baby Boomer generation and probably at least half of the families in the town where I grew up split during the mid-70s. I only remember hearing really awful stories from the kids from the divorced families but, for some reason, we’ve remained mostly mute about it in public in our adulthood. Thank God for the X-ers and Y’s who are starting to speak up.

I’ve named the blog after someone I was talking to who referred to her Boyfriend’s problem son as a “Spoiled White Kid from Divorce.” Where does this come from?  How can people stay so blind to what’s going on in the families?  It’s those damn double Christmas presents…they attract so much jealousy from the Normal Kids.  Too bad the normal kids didn’t have to leave their sobbing, drunk, suicidal mother by herself on Christmas afternoon so that they could go hang out with their drunk Father and Step-Mother on Christmas Night.  See how it feels, those two presents.

I’m an amateur astrologer and have found a strange connection between the ages that kids are when their parents get divorced and how it often influences their development later on. There are also some other indicators that so far seem to be good predictors of how well the kids will cope. I hope to eventually be able to use this information to help the kids from these situations. I don’t know how much astrobabble I’ll use here, hopefully not much, but take this as a warning that there may be some reference to planets and astrology.

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