Spoiled Children of Divorce


Talking About Mental Health

Here’s an interesting discussion. Olympic Swimmer Michael Phelps discusses his problems with Depression, Anxiety and Suicidal feelings. He talks with David Axelrod who talks a bit about his Father’s Suicide which he said he never talked about with anyone for 30 years. (In astrobabble terms, that’s a Saturn Return. Saturn rules the Father and also Depression). Neither interviewer or interviewee discusses being Children of Divorce. The stigma is just that strong.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/michael-phelps-helping-others-with-depression-light-years-better-than-olympic-gold/CBSnews. Michael Phelps discusses mental health.



Are You Happy & Optimistic Even Though Your Parents’ Behaviors After the Divorce Were Off the Charts?
June 30, 2017, 6:30 pm
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Researchers in the U.K. found that having a sister will make you happier and more optimistic, especially if you come from Divorce.

Tony Cassidy and Liz Wright figured this out somehow. Don’t know how they possibly could have thought to ask about Divorce because no one ever does. Maybe that’s only in the U.S.

He said: “Sisters appear to encourage more open communication and cohesion in families. However, brothers seem to have the alternative effect. Emotional expression is fundamental to good psychological health and having sisters promotes this in families.”
Girls who had sisters also tended to be more independent and keen on achievement, according to the findings.
The effects were stronger among children from broken homes, suggesting that sisters might lean on each other more for support when their parents divorce.

“Having a Sister Makes You Happier and More Optimistic, Say Psychologists.” by Kate Devlin. Apr. 2, 2009. The Telegraph.co.uk.



What Happens On Your Wedding Day?

This is a very touching story. A woman named Brittany was being walked down the aisle on her Wedding Day by her Biological Father. Her Father stops and runs back to ask Brittany’s Step-Father to help walk her down the aisle as well. The Step-Father is in tears.

The story does not sugar coat the divorce and the custody disputes and the contentious relationship between the Fathers. That kind of honesty is much appreciated. Brittany was 6 years old when her parents divorced.

Congratulations on your new life, Brittany!



Astrology Lecture on Cycles of Jupiter and Saturn in Child Development
April 8, 2017, 5:27 pm
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Here is a great lecture with astrologer Alex Trenowith which discusses how the Jupiter and Saturn cycles affect children throughout childhood. She worked in the education field and was able to match her observations of the children with astrological cycles. This is very similar to my research which has been looking at how trauma of divorce affects children (but much better presented).

SFB RF Alex Trenoweth: Astrology in Education: Research
from The Kepler Conference

Kepler Conference / Alex Trenowith Lecture



Exemplary Children of Divorce – KellyAnne Conway
February 20, 2017, 3:06 am
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Well here we go — another advisor to the President who is a Child of Divorce.

Donald Trump is now the Chief. He’s divorced. He’s on his third wife. I have no insight about him. But, if you’ll remember my other posts from a hundred thousand years ago, advisors and strategists to Presidents tend to come from Divorce. President Obama’s advisor was David Axelrod who was a Child of Divorce. George W. Bush’s advisor was Karl Rove who was also a Child of Divorce. There are so few Children of Divorce in high profile politics. It looks like a talent for strategizing and advising which comes from growing up in Divorce. Leadership maybe not as much. Once you’ve listened to both sides of a divorce you probably know everything you need to know about what makes people tick.

So, KellyAnne may not be considered exemplary but she’s having so much criticism right now I can’t diss her completely. According to Wikipedia, KellyAnne’s parents divorced when she was three years old. That’s the first Jupiter square. It has something maybe to do with breaking down boundaries, or feeling boundless, or just being able to not feel bad when you say anything to support your boss.

I believe that KellyAnne is an only child. She grew up in a house of all women. Her Mother, her Grandmother, and her two Aunts. KellyAnne has a Law Degree so she made it through College. She is married and has four children. She can talk really, really fast (maybe because she’s from New Jersey).



Is One of Your Parents a Stalker?
February 20, 2017, 2:42 am
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Stalking is common in Divorce. According to this article, “Stalking After Divorce Or Separation.”

http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/abusiverelationships/a/stalking.htm

about 30-40 percent of divorces include stalking behaviors. What does this mean for the bambinos? Hmm, I don’t have a clue. No, that’s not true. I did see a research study on children of divorce whose parents stalk from out of a Scandinavian country. I think it was Finland. I guess that along with all the other problems you listen to one of your parents talk about getting a restraining order.

The point is, if you grew up in Divorce there’s a good chance that you were exposed to this behavior. It would be good to read up on PTSD because it probably made you feel pretty powerless and over-exposed to idiotic behavior as a kid.



Golden Oldies About Single Mothers and Their Daughters
August 2, 2016, 10:54 pm
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For some reason this list of movies and books popped into my head. They are mostly about Mothers from Divorce and their daughters and they all came out in the 1970s or earlier. They are great movies but all show a negative side of divorce and growing up with a single parent. That’s the purpose of drama, after all. To creative dramatic tension in order to provide a psychological catharsis. Modern movies are forced to sugar coat and censor everything so nobody bothers to write them let alone watch them.

“Mildred Pierce” stars Joan Crawford as a middle class mother in the depression and her two daughters. Her husband lost his job and left her for a wealthy woman. She struggles to find a job and eventually build a successful business so that her daughters can maintain their social status. Her youngest daughter dies and her oldest daughter is a spoiled snob who becomes a successful singer and then steals her Joan’s boyfriend.

“Neon Ceiling” stars Lee Grant as a Mother in a terrible marriage who packs up her teenage daughter and leaves. The car breaks down in the middle of the desert and the two develop an interesting relationship with the mechanic who fixes the car. So, some scary commentary about girls and Mommys boyfriend.

“Rachel, Rachel” stars Joanne Woodward as a grown daughter of a widowed Mother. Cant remember anything about the story except that it scared me as a child so you can watch it and let me know.

“The Effect of Gamma Rays on Man in the Moon Marigolds” also starred Joanne Woodward. It is a play written by Paul Zindel. Incredible tension of two daughters growing up with a single mother.

Steven King’s “Carrie” stars Sissy Spacek as the repressed child of divorce who goes ape face at the senior prom.

Enjoy!