Spoiled Children of Divorce

Exemplary Children of Divorce – Lance Armstrong

I’ve avoided talking about Professional Athletes from Divorced Families.  I don’t know for certain but assume that there are a lot from Divorced Families.  If things at home are a little bit difficult to be around it seems that Sports would be an easy way to focus on something positive for very talented children with a lot of discipline and drive.  “Go out and play!” is the Single Parent’s fighting song, lol, just get the Hell out of my overburdened way.  Society, at least American Society, also encourages Sports and provides nice pay offs.  So I’ll start looking at the Success Stories from Sports now, although I realize I still have one more bout with the Intellectuals’ list.

Superstar Cyclist Lance Armstrong has been open about his childhood so I’ll start with him.  Armstrong has broken the Tour de France record by winning the race 7 times in a row from 1999 to 2005.  And he did this after surviving a serious bout with Testicular Cancer that had spread to his Brain & Lungs at Age 25.  Everything in his life seems to have worked in extreme patterns starting with his childhood.  His Mother has been married and divorced 4 times.

Armstrong’s Father left his Mother when Lance was 2 years old.  Within a year his Mother had remarried and Armstrong was adopted by his Step-Father.  I don’t have the information about how long this household lasted and don’t know about Armstrong’s other 2 Step-Fathers.  The Wikipedia article says that Armstrong refuses to meet his real Father and that his Step-Father is “deceitful.”

I’ve never read it, but the title of Armstrong’s book, It’s Not About the Bike, pretty much explains a person who is able to transcend through multiple layers of challenges with super human talents.  Truly amazing.

Armstrong is divorced himself and has 3 children (May 8, 1998 – Sept. 2003).  His relationship with the singer Sheryl Crow was very public but ended just before she was diagnosed with Breast Cancer (Autumn 2003 – Feb. 2006).

Armstrong has retired from professional cycling but has continued to give his time to work with Cancer patients through the Lance Armstrong Foundation.  He also participates in Marathons which he says are more difficult than the Tour de France.

Exemplary Children of Divorce – Oprah Winfrey & Eckhart Tolle
March 9, 2008, 6:58 am
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Oprah is putting on a special web event with Eckhart Tolle in order to teach his book, A New Earth:  Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose.  It started last Monday Night, March 3, and will continue for 9 more weeks.

Anyone can find information about it here:  http://www.oprah.com/obc_classic/webevent_registration.html.

Both Oprah and Eckhart are amazingly successful Children of Divorce.

Oprah, of course, is Queen of Everything she touches.  She is constantly looking way new ways to discover how to deal with life’s problems.  She was born to two teenagers who didn’t stay together.  She lived with both parents during her childhood and most of her story is well-known.

Eckhart Tolle was born in Germany.  His childhood biography is scant.  His parents divorced at some point and he moved to Spain at Age 13 to live with his Father.  At this point, he quit going to school as well.  Much later on, he went on to college in England where he was very successful.  But, until he was 29 Tolle suffered from intense depressions and anxieties.  At that point he became aware that he had a choice between hanging on to the problems or digging deeper to find his own true self that was free of these problems.  Another lesson he realized was to stop resisting everything.

That’s always been my big problem.  Not to change the subject but this reminds me of the movie Napolean Dynamite.  That’s a story of two messed up brothers being raised by their Grandmother (no mention of parents).  Both are really odd and lonely.  Their story begins to turn around when they begin to agree to new adventures.  I remember sort of hearing a background mantra of the characters in that movie saying “Okay” when anything was suggested.  That always led to the next event and eventually to their happiness.

Anyway, women tend to get used as the hausfrau by parent and raped by their dates when they’re that easy going so I guess maybe in reality it’s not really that easy.

This was a rant.  That weird scrambling of the blog entries yesterday has me a little distressed.  I looked on the help forums and some other people have been experiencing the same thing.  I’ve got a creepy ex-step-sister who works for Homeland Security so I’m a little paranoid.  In my twenties I came home one day and found her and her husband standing outside my house.  They lived out of town and didn’t call, of course, just decided to spy and got caught.  Creepy.

Exemplary Children of Divorce – Rosa Parks

Rosa Parks was the “Mother of the Modern-Day Civil Rights Movement.” When she refused to get off of her seat for a white person she freed the Country. Rosa Parks was a Child of Divorce.

From what I can tell, Parks’ parents separated sometime before she was 7 years old. Parks moved with her Mother and younger brother, Sylvester, to her grandparents’ farm in Alabama where she spent the remainder of her childhood. According to the census records that are listed on the Internet her Mother remarried.

Parks married a barber named Raymond Parks in 1932 and in 1943 became active in the current Civil Rights Movement. She became its “Mother” on Dec. 1, 1955 in Montgomery Alabama. That’s absolutely the only time I can say that I wish had taken the public transit.

Parks passed away in 2005, still very humble and very much admired. She wrote her autobiography which I hope to read soon.

Exemplary Children of Divorce – Clifford Geertz

I’ve found my first openly outed Child of D from off the Guardian’s Top 100 Intellectuals (2005)! Honest to God, I was about to give up, this is so time consuming.

Clifford Geertz, anthropologist, Child of Divorce. Divorce didn’t phase him a bit. Attribute this either to good genes or to the fact that he was passed off at Age 3 to be raised by a 60-year old “Foster Mother” named “Nana. Early on he realized that he was highly intelligent and that this would be his ticket out. In High School Geertz wanted to become a writer.  At Age 17 he joined the Navy in World War II. And then went directly to College where he found an inspiring teacher who helped him develop.

I know nothing about Anthropology (am having a major backspace dance with spell check trying to get the word spelled out correctly.) According to this obituary (unfortunately Mr. Geertz passed away in 2006) http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qn4158/is_20061103/ai_n16824591. Geertz wrote the “Most famous single essay in anthropology which sounds a bit like a fore-runner to a Chuck Palachiuk novel. It’s called “Deep Play: Notes on the Balinese Cockfight.” This is supposed to be an excellent example of a concept developed by Geertz called “Thick understanding.”

Geertz was married twice and divorced once. He spent much of his life living in other cultures, most notably in Indonesia and Morocco.

Exemplary Children of Divorce – Steven Spielberg

Filmmaker Steven Spielberg’s parents divorced when he was around 15 or 16.

He says here that E.T. is inspired by that experience:

“From the very beginning,” Spielberg said, “ `E.T.’ was a movie about my childhood–about my parents’ divorce, although people haven’t often seen that it’s about divorce. My parents split up when I was 15 or 16 years old, and I needed a special friend, and had to use my imagination to take me to places that felt good–that helped me move beyond the problems my parents were having, and that ended our family as a whole. And thinking about that time, I thought, an extraterrestrial character would be the perfect springboard to purge the pain of your parents’ splitting up.”

from http://www.scruffles.net/speilberg/articles/article-006.html

And also from an article at Businessweek.com (www.businessweek.com/1998/28/b3586001.htm):

With his parents’ divorce looming, Spielberg’s grades sank. He barely graduated from high school and was rejected from both UCLA and USC film schools. Settling for California State University at Long Beach because it was close to Hollywood, Spielberg got a C in his television production course. He dropped out in his senior year.

Exemplary Children – Denise Denton

Denise Denton is the reason that I started looking into Children of Divorce. The events of her life can be read through astrological cycles very clearly.

Denton was an Engineer and Educator.  She was the first Woman in the U.S. to be appointed as Dean to an Engineering College at a major university. Not only was she brilliant out of her mind (Phd from MIT) she had guts. She faced off with the President of Harvard who claimed that women would never make it in the Sciences and Maths. Yes, this happened in Jan., 2005 (not in 1955) and that was the President of Harvard (not of some Oklahoma Community College.)

Denton was appointed as Chancellor (Head Hauncho) at University of Santa Cruz in California and unfortunately the extremist behavior at that school sent her into a tailspin depression. The student activists harassed her relentlessly. Although self-described Liberals, they were even making fun of her for being Gay (UCSC considers itself to be the most liberal school on earth, lol). She was questioned for spending too much money on fixing up her house on campus among other problems. On June 24, 2006, Denton committed Suicide by jumping out her girlfriend’s 42-story building.

Because I’ve lived in Santa Cruz and know the level of hypocrisy and violence that exists in that town I can sympathize with Denton’s struggles there. Also, as I said, there’s the Astrological connection. Although it looks like she tanked because she was failing for the first time in her life, I believe that someone could have warned her that she was due to relive some deeply impacted trauma from the past, especially from the time of her parent’s divorce, if events provoked it.  Although I’m struggling to find data, the suicides that I’ve been looking at so far have followed pretty predictable patterns.

RIP, Denise Denton.  Young girls with Math Skills will be able to add up something in their lives beyond their checkbooks because of you.